Holy shit! That’s it. The emotional abuse now makes sense….things always being my fault, etc. It’s like a light switch flipped on. Narcissists can only work when they have a source of supply. All those opportunities, can never be replaced You think you have it in you, the love you clearly seek Yet you could never reach it, for that part of you is weak You believed you had a need for it, a capacity to share But sadly now, you realize, that gift was never there The devil is literally hidden in the detail of your reactions and behavior. You have a profoundly damaging effect on your relationships. Too much distress and suffering are endured by those in contact with you. You are highly self-centered and have an unrealistically high opinion of yourself, your status. You have a pervasive and persistent grandiosity in all areas of your life. Then you turn that around on me when you were not wronged….but became distant and mean. You have never apologized the entire time I’ve known you…and are very sensitive to criticism of yourself to the point of retaliation with rage.
The light is on and I am out.
- He or she has a grandiose sense of self-importance (exaggerates accomplishments and demands to be considered superior without real evidence of achievement).
- He or she lives in a dream world of exceptional success, power, beauty, genius, or “perfect” love.
- He or she thinks of him- or herself as “special” or privileged, and that he or she can only be understood by other special or high-status people.
- He or she demands excessive amounts of praise or admiration from others.
- He or she feels entitled to automatic deference, compliance , or favorable treatment from others.
- He or she is exploitative towards others and takes advantage of them.
- He or she lacks empathy and does not recognize or identify with others’ feelings.
- He or she is frequently envious of others or thinks that they are envious of him or her.
- He or she “has an attitude” or frequently acts in haughty or arrogant ways.
In addition to these criteria, DSM-IV-TR groups NPD together with three other personality disorders in its so-called Cluster B. These four disorders are grouped together on the basis of symptom similarities, insofar as patients with these disorders appear to others as overly emotional, unstable, or self-dramatizing. The other three disorders in Cluster B are antisocial, borderline, and histrionic personality disorders.